An obsession with the female form has existed for centuries across different cultures and geographic regions. An over-obsession with the female form without regard to personhood is self-objectification. Most of us are familiar with the idea of men seeing women as objects through behaviors such as catcalling or engaging in pornography, but what about women objectifying themselves, and even each other?
In short, self-objectification is thinking of oneself as an object first and a person second.
Self-objectifying behaviors can include but are not limited to: Excessive mirror looking, frequent selfies, critiquing one’s appearance in the reflection and photographs, and comparing oneself to images in the media and other women. The danger with self-objectification is that compelling research has found that it is associated with a number of ills including body shame, appearance anxiety, depression, and eating disorders.
“THE DANGER WITH SELF-OBJECTIFICATION IS THAT COMPELLING RESEARCH HAS FOUND THAT IT IS ASSOCIATED WITH A NUMBER OF ILLS INCLUDING BODY SHAME, APPEARANCE ANXIETY, DEPRESSION, AND EATING DISORDERS.”
Westernized media chronically and pervasively displays images that portray women as objects. Because we learn from what we see, exposure to such images naturally teaches us to focus on appearance rather than character and the body rather than the person. However, it’s not just magazines, TV or movies that are the culprit, but social media has created another avenue through which women objectify themselves and one another.
If I’m honest with you, I am still healing from self-objectifying behaviors that have shaped the way I see myself and without a doubt have played a part in my struggles with depression and food and body image issues. As a little girl, I would regularly thumb through the pages of my mom’s Vogue magazine and flip through Victoria Secret catalogs, aspiring to one-day look like the models I envied and even objectified. I didn’t know these women – I didn’t know their stories or personalities or dreams. I simply saw them as beautiful body parts, desirable in the eyes of men and who made me feel shameful about my own body. Not only was the media objectifying them, so was I.
Once a competitive athlete who flirted with the modeling world, I took pride in my looks while at the same time loathing them. Years later, I am finally coming face to face with some of my body image struggles and am forced to confront the wreckage that has come from objectifying myself and other women. It is a beautiful unraveling, however, this process of losing one’s objectified self and discovering one’s true self.
“THIS IS WHAT I’M LEARNING: WE ARE MORE THAN OUR NAME. WE ARE MORE THAN OUR PRETTY FACES OR THE SUM OF OUR BODY PARTS. WE ARE LIVING, BREATHING STORIES WITH QUIRKS, DREAMS AND CRAZY AMAZING TALENTS. WE ARE MASTERPIECES WITH THE ABILITY TO LOVE WELL AND DO A PHENOMENAL AMOUNT OF GOOD IN THIS WORLD.”
This is what I’m learning: We are more than our name. We are more than our pretty faces or the sum of our body parts. We are living, breathing stories with quirks, dreams and crazy amazing talents. We are masterpieces with the ability to love well and do a phenomenal amount of good in this world. Let us stop seeing ourselves and other women as body parts and instead as stories to be told. We are expansive subjects to be studied, not shiny objects to be desired.
Allie Marie Smith is the Founder and Executive Director of Wonderfully Made and co-author of both Bible studies in the WM Series. She is also the developer of the Body Beautiful iPhone app for true beauty and confidence and writes and speaks regularly. You can follow her on Twitter and Instagram at @alliemariesmith.